What It Feels Like to Be a Failure ?

 

   

Feeling like you're lagging behind while everyone else is advancing is what failure is all about, not simply losing. When you look through social media and see folks your age reaching significant life events—graduating, landing a job, traveling, getting engaged—while you're trapped in the same spot, unsure of what's next, it brings a heavy weight to your chest.

People want you to have a plan when you're twenty-three. Timelines are pushed by society: graduate by 22, start saving, find employment right away, and achieve success before the age of thirty. What occurs, though, if you don't fit that timeline? while you are still learning things? When you have made an attempt and failed, or worse, when you are unsure of where to begin?

It's like being suffocated. Imagine waking up every day with the feeling that time is running out, even if you know that 23 is still a youthful age. However, the pressure disregards reason. It compares you to students who appear to have it all figured out, whispering in your ear. It causes you to doubt your value.

Failure is an internal struggle rather than only a result of external setbacks. It involves lying in bed at night and reliving all of your errors. Because you don't want to respond to the dreaded question, "So, what are you doing these days?" you avoid certain interactions. When family members give you unsolicited advise about what you should do, it makes you feel embarrassed.

In actuality, this stage is hardly discussed. Success tales are exalted by everyone, but the parts when people struggled, doubted themselves, and nearly gave up are ignored. Failure, however, is not the end. It's a process, but it's also difficult, uncomfortable, and draining. A change. An endurance and patience test.

In actuality, the majority of people struggle in private. The world never displays the whole picture—only the highlights. Degrees don't guarantee success in the job market, and many people struggle with their mental health on a daily basis. Not everyone gets their ideal opportunity right away, and some work at jobs they detest just to make ends meet. Expectations, obligations, and debt are burdensome, and sometimes simply getting through the day is a victory in and of itself.

You are not alone in this. Most of us are lost, faking confidence, trying to figure things out one step at a time. And that’s okay. The timelines are fake, and success isn’t a straight path. So, if you feel like a failure, remember: You’re still growing. You’re still learning. And that means you haven’t failed yet.

                     Keep Working-Keep Growing